Adding Whimsy to the Memory of a Loved One

I took a road trip with my family and some friends this past weekend to celebrate my birthday. I packed my Coach wristlet and wore my heart necklace. A necklace I generally love to wear.

These may seem like basic accessories. But to me, it’s a Coach wristlet my mom purchased for me during a vacation we took to Puerto Rico. The heart necklace was a gift from her on Valentine’s Day one year. Pieces I could very well pass down to my daughters one day.

February will mark 8 years since my mom passed away.

Grief, in the beginning, had more of a bitter taste, so to speak. And to be honest, sometimes that feeling still creeps its way back in. Like when I think about how my mom can’t experience the girls’ childhood, babysitting opportunities, and travels. Or a simple call or visit.

I’ve learned to add whimsy whenever her birthday or the anniversary of her passing come along. The sweet aspect of it. A way to celebrate her everlasting energy. Listen to the music she enjoyed and I grew up with. Enjoy the food. Light a candle. Smile at the memories and continue to experience the way her energy felt when she was physically here. An energy that won’t go away just because I can’t see, hear, or embrace her.

Losing someone you love is never easy. The emotions come in waves, but add whimsy to the memory of them and you can take the experience, the love, and the joy to a whole new level.

We, at The Lived-In Library, don’t just experience love and life in its physical form. We acknowledge, stay curious, and look for opportunities to grow in faith for things beyond our understanding. Opportunities to experience and respect the energy we feel. Not solely what we see.

An energy I took with me to celebrate my birthday. To add whimsy.

Until next time [God willing],

Sandy

If you’re looking for an inspiring podcast, I highly recommend Planet Em by Emily McDonald. The episodes are not related to grief, but there is content about protecting your energy. So if this resonates with you, I encourage you to give her podcast a listen.